Happy New Month.... wow.. wow

I just want to fall into prophetic ministry:

Whatever gathering declaring against your sucess loose there unity in Jesus name.

When you stand, you shall be recognized for favor,  when you knock hundreds will open unto you, when you call millions shall obey your commands, the ability to dig out your potential for wealth shall bestow you in Jesus name.

Ancient authorities ruling in your family loose value in Jesus name.  Destiny achievement no human in your blood line had ever accomplishe, you will attain it with ease in Jesus name.

I decree peace over ur worries, over ur night cries, over ur relationship, over ur marriage, over ur business, over ur career. Jesus will remember you, God will everly Choose to favor you. Struggling lost it grieve over you & you will not dissapoint Jesus Christ, you won't miss it, you won't get carried away, through out your days on earth it shall be glorious. In Jesus mighty name.... Amen!!!!!

Happy New month & welcome to your reign of express.......

Nice Guys Aren’t Always Good Men

To every heartbroken girl, every crushed lady, every disappointed woman, every deceived and manipulated girl, every pure and good-hearted woman who believed too much,
there’s a big difference between a nice guy and a good man.
It sounds the same, but the reality is – there’s an exceptional difference between these two.
I once was exactly where you are now . I let myself be fooled by a nice guy in the disguise of a real, good man. I couldn’t have been more wrong.

So, that is why it is essential for me to explain to you the main difference between those two. I want to use my experience to help you avoid these people.

A nice guy is charming, irresistible, insatiable. He will tell you everything you want to hear. And he won’t hesitate to lie to you when it feels convenient to him. Especially when there’s something ugly that he desperately wants to hide.
But, a good man will always speak the truth. He won’t be afraid to hurt your feelings by telling you the truth because he genuinely believes that integrity and honesty are more important than comfort. Those are values that last forever.

It is simple.
A nice guy is afraid of being rejected and he does everything in his power to gain validation, while a good man knows exactly how much he’s worth and doesn’t give a damn whether he’s rejected or accepted.

A nice guy will seem like a nice guy until he reveals his real intentions and tries to change who you are. He will try to modify your personality and mold you into a person he can see himself with. A good man , on the other hand, will not only respect your individuality but he will also love you for your wild peculiarity.

A nice guy will miss your calls and avoid your messages, but a good man will come at your door in the middle of the night and surprise you with a pizza and two bottles of beer.

A nice guy will treat you like a girl of convenience. He will show you just a little to get you hooked and then he’ll disappear when you least expect it, knowing that you’ll always be there waiting for him.

But, a good man… Oh, a good man will never leave you hanging, not knowing what’s going on between you two. He will make sure to let you know what’s in his heart. He’ll devote himself to you. He’ll open the gates of his world to you. He’ll welcome you to stay forever.

A nice guy won’t apologize when he’s wrong. He won’t take responsibility for his actions. Instead, he’ll find it easier to put the blame on someone else. A good man , on the other hand, admits his mistakes. He knows when he’s wrong and he knows just what to do to make things right again.
A nice guy will get you laid, but a good man will love you forever.

A nice guy is accustomed to an easy life. He won’t bother to work hard and struggle when he has a shortcut. That is why he’ll usually pick the easier way out. No muss, no fuss.

But, a good man, he will be 100% committed to his self-growth and his development. He will finish the work because it is the only way to ever achieve his goals. A good man knows that in life, there are no shortcuts.

More importantly, a good man won’t be concerned with labels and etiquettes like the nice guy. He will care about values.
So, please, learn the difference between these two, don’t settle for less than you deserve, and don’t you ever let them trick you!

Nice guys aren’t always good men!

Marriage Is Never Easy

My name is Sophia and I have been married for the past 9 yrs, I’m blessed with 3 kids (2 boys and a girl) and I have the most amazing hubby. I’m trying to correct the notion that all marriages are wacky, which is not true.

It wouldn’t be nice if some single girls out there don’t get to know that marriages can work if you make it happen.

I got married 9yrs ago to my hubby, we dated for a year and got married. My friends were like it was too soon since we barely know our selves, I was staying in Abuja while him in Lagos, I just come occasionally to visit him, so after a year, we figured it was time to move to the next level which was very amazing.
We got married and I started living the life of a married woman.

We loved each other so much but there were things we did not know about each other since it was long distance hence posed a problem for us. I had very bad mouth as of that time. I do like to challenge everyone including him which he didn’t like.

We argued a lot which ends up with several beatings.

The first time my hubby hit me, I ran to my aunt’s place and later went back home, it happened again and again, but the whole thing was after the beatings, he comes back to say sorry and to tell me how the things I said to him really did hurt and how he’s hot tempered and I’m hot tempered and all.

After a year, I told myself I had to work on myself, I stopped talking too much, prayed more often and asked God to help me with my temper, I stopped challenging him and always make him feel more than superior to me, like magic, the whole fighting stopped.

I took in and gave birth to our twin boys the second year. I was so engrossed with taking care of the babies that I forgot to give my hubby the attention he deserved. When my babies were 5 month old, I went through my hubby’s phone for the first time and I found out he was cheating on me.
The girl in question was supposed to be a family friend but she started sleeping with my husband.
I went through the whole bbm chat and saw the way the girl started flirting with my hubby and how he tried to resist and how he finally fell for her tricks, I was mad, I was raged but at the same time I was determined to be calm about the whole thing. I didn’t mention it to him when he came to pick up his phone cause I would have insulted him and said so many hurtful things to him, so I pretended like I saw nothing.

The next day, I started jogging with some neighbours, but after 2weeks I got a treadmill and started using at home. I was still running in the morning and using the treadmill at night.
After 3 months, I lost the whole baby fat coming back to 60kg which was my initial weight. I didn’t give up,I kept trying to look fit and everything.

One night, my hubby came to me saying we needed to talk, I was like hope there is no problem? He said there is! And I was like let me hear it. He then opened up to me about his affairs with that girl. He told me everything that happened, even went ahead to show me the whole chat and how he ended it with the girl and how she’s still calling back and begging for more.

Of course she was going to beg for more, my hubby is well endowed and gifted (Lol).

He was crying and apologising but I told him he shouldn’t worry, that it was all my fault, I forgot about him and he saw attention some where else. We made up and after 2 days, he got me a car out of guilt but I told him to stop worrying but I still liked the fact that he got me the car, it was my dream car.
We started enjoying our lives the way it was before, going to the movies, club, hanging out, I gave him all my attention.

Even after I gave birth to my baby girl 3 years later, he didn’t cheat on me because I made sure I didn’t stop been a mother, a wife, lover and friend. As usual, I started exercising again and went back to my body 4months after my baby was born. We were so blessed, work was going fine, home was fine.
Now when I say “Home was fine” it didn’t mean we were not quarreling, we were but I just made sure if I was going to quarrel about anything, it was going to be something worth it and I tried as much as possible not to be harsh or rude.

There was a time we quarreled and couldn’t reconcile immediately like usual and I went out to tell a male friend of mine not knowing that was the last thing I should be doing.
The guy was advising me and I felt he was nice. One day, the same talk came up between me and my hubby, when we couldn’t reconcile, I drove of to that guy’s house.

He consoled me and started kissing me. I was kissing him back and it suddenly dawned on me, he’s not my husband, I couldn’t do that to my hubby, I pushed him off and drove back home.

Told my hubby he won and told him how I kissed someone else and he told me he understands, so we’d drop the case even if I was right, deleted the guy as a friend and worked on my marriage.
Since then, we don’t stay mad at each other more than 10mins. My friends come to the house and they are like, I envy your marriage, that we still act as newlyweds and all, but what they don’t know is it not easy getting your family together.

Its’ so hard to be a friend, lover, best friend, mistress, mother, wife, sister all in one. I’m from a broken home so I know what I and my sister went through and I didn’t want that for my kids.
So I had to fight to make my home work. I got married when I was 18 and right now 27, but when you see me, I look 24, people never believe I’m 27 or a mother because I made sure I kept my self-looking good.

My hubby doesn’t like the whole idea of wrapper or anything so I don’t have one except for meetings. I dress in my bum shorts, miniskirts, short dresses, anything to keep me looking good.

So at this point I’m going to say, ladies:

1. Marriage is not easy
2. Don’t go into marriage expecting so much.
3. Don’t think your marriage would not have problems, they will always have, what makes you a woman is the ability to handle it
4. Make your partner your friend, best friend, lover, wife, mistress, mother, sister, with that, he can open up to you all the time.
5. Never lose yourself because you are married, he loved what he saw that’s why he married you, try not to go away from that.
6. Never share your problems with anyone, you would get the wrong advice from people, handle your problems within.
7. Do not argue with your hubby, let him win if you see it’s gonna pose as a problem.
8. For those with sharp mouth, trim it, that’s the one thing men hate. It took me time to learn, so please and please, never challenge your hubby, because it would make him feel he’s not in control and men like feeling they are in control even when actually, its the women who are in control.
9. Talk to him all the time, appreciate anything he does and encourage him.
10. Don’t forget to make God your number one. Don’t joke with prayer, it never fails.

Thank You

My Underwear Went Off

a true story and a testimony from a young lady.

she has shared her story so that others maybe saved. PLZ READ

I used to be that innocent girl who had the world at her feet. I was beautiful and I had eyes and hips that could make men sway, and to top it all up, I was a Christian, a very good Christian with a heart burning for God.

When I entered the university, I met a guy, his name was Derrick. I couldn’t believe my luck the first time I bumped into him on my way to class, he had such a kind smile and a tender look that weakened my knees when he spoke.
Because I was late for class we couldn’t talk much but barely three weeks later, I met him at the fresher’s night party and I was overwhelmed.

We got talking and I found out that he was in his second year and from that night, we became an inseparable pair.
At first, we were friends and as months passed by, we got closer and closer and the chemistry between us was undeniable.
About a year after I entered the university, Derrick and I started dating.

He was everything a girl could ever want and desire save the fact that he wasn’t so much of a Christian. Derrick had magical hands that made him hard to resist and most times I fell for it. At first, I felt bad but when I couldn’t help falling into the same pit I killed the guilt on my inside.

And then one day, one of my friends said I was getting fatter and that got me thinking and in the process I began to link the dots…first I had a vomiting spree every morning which I thought was due to a flu and then I had this morning sickness which I felt was due to stress and then my missing period…

oh no it can’t be possible I said to myself, I couldn’t be pregnant!!!

After a series of test outside school, I realized the deadliest truth, I was indeed pregnant. I was only nineteen, I still had a whole life ahead of me, what was I going to do. I couldn’t tell my parents, they wouldn’t hear of it. I had to go to Derrick to tell him what I had found out.
On telling him, I saw him fly into a temper I had never seen in my life. He was so hysterical, calling me all sorts of names and I didn’t even know when I started crying heart drenching tears of hurt and betrayal.

When he looked into my eyes he must have realized how scared and hurt I was and so he pulled me close and ran his hands through my hair until I had calmed down and then he said tome in the most subtle voice ever

”why don’t you have an abortion”.

I pulled back instantly, I couldn’t have an abortion! But when he talked about my parents and the sanctioning of the school and the fellowship which I belonged to, I knew I had no other choice.

Derrick had made all the arrangements and so on the supposed day we went to the room- like clinic. I shivered all through my way there but Derrick kept telling me that it would be okay and that he was proud that I made such a brave decision.

When I entered into the room where the abortion was supposed to take place I laid down on the table trying to dissociate my mind from what I was about to do and then a young man told me sternly, ” you know I can’t perform this procedure with your underwear on” and then I began to pull it off.

As I did this a sense of guilt overwhelmed me,

first I had pulled off my underwear of pleasure and now I was pulling it off to get rid of the stigma the pleasure had brought…

what a shame, I felt so exposed.
All through the times that I felt instruments coming in and out of me, I kept thinking of the lady I had become and the hypocrite I had transformed into.

I let out a sigh, only if I can get through this I muttered… only if…and then I felt a sharp pain pierce through the whole of my body, I screamed but then the doctor told me to be quiet.

I felt another pain but this time I bit my lip and then the pain began to come in successions. I instinctively knew that something was wrong but I was too weak to talk or to move and then I heard the voices of Derrick and the doctor talking about the fact that I was bleeding excessively. The pain was so unbearable and I could feel myself getting weaker and weaker.

With the last strength in me, I pleaded with God
”Oh Lord I’m so sorry for taking my under wears off, please forgive me.”

and I drifted into a world where the pain seemed less hurtful and the voices seemed more distant.

I could felt death Taking my soul into Hell.

ROM 12:1, Friends, our bodies are the temple of the Lord… Do not take off your underwear when the time is not right.

Lots of girls who gained admission into the university as virgins eventually lost it so cheaply to guys who have nothing to do with their destinies.

In a bid to get a certificate, they sold out a destiny that certificate cannot guarantee. Sex before marriage is a sin and let us learn to hate what God hates.

I have walked the road and l am warning you not to take that path but to follow the path of the Lord Jesus.

If You are going through this or felt to discuss Your pains in past or presence with Anyone, You can confide in @Olalekan WhatsApp/Call me 08066519426. No condemnation for those in Christ Jesus.

Fight it & Stop Giving Up

Sometimes God permits a storm to rise in your courtship/dating relationship, so that He can see how you are going to fight in your marriage.

Some battles are just marriage crises rehearsals.

Some quarrels are just peace keeping practice.

Some malice are only an exercise of your forgiveness habits.

Some hasty conclusions are God's way of saying "look, let Me see how you are going to talk about this. Let me see your ability listen."

He wants to see how you handle the little things that can break, so that He can trust you with bigger things that are unbreakable.

He wants to see how you respond when you have the option of walking away, so that He can entrust you with an inseparable covenant assignment.

Sometimes God will use the things, and the situations you hate the most, to teach you how to fight for the things you love the most.

The test might not even be meant to test your strength and tolerance with the one you are in relationship with, but to sharpen your habits for the marriage He is taking you Into. Keep Fighting to show yourself approved to God.

Get this right, if You can't fight to fit in then God Will never make that man/woman to be yours. 
Many step out of there greatness into there cradle, just because the greatness need some home work to be doné. Fight it & stop giving up, You could be close.

Glory to God for the one who needs this today.

Who exactly is to blame in Acrimony?

The question is: Who exactly is to blame in Acrimony? Melinda? Robert? Melinda's family?

The psychological thriller tells the story of
Melinda Moore, a faithful and hardworking wife who supports her husband, Robert, an engineer and dreamer pushing a launch of his invention. However, their marriage ends just before he hits it big with the rechargeable battery he spent decades inventing.

Just in case you haven't seen the movie, here are 10 things you should know before joining the conversation

1. Before their wedding, Melinda had caught Robert cheating on her with a random girl,
Diana Wells. Enraged, she drives her car into their trailer. The accident leads to a hysterectomy.

2. He apologizes and despite her sisters' objections, she forgives him and they get married. Years later, Melinda works to support them, as Robert being a felon, is unable to find work. Robert convinces Melinda to mortgage the house so he can build a new prototype for his battery.

3. 20 years later, Diana is back in the picture and is working for Prescott, an investor. So she arranges a meeting between Robert and Prescott.

4. Robert is offered $800,000 to sell his work, but he wants to license the technology to them instead, so the deal doesn't go through.

5. Meanwhile, Melinda's sisters tell her that Robert is cheating on her after they found Diana’s wallet in his truck. Back at home, Melinda is angry at him for 'cheating' and refusing to accept Prescott's offer. She wants a divorce.

6. After the divorce, she loses the house, moves in with her sister, and starts dating her ex-boyfriend, Devon. While Diana invites Robert, who is living in a shelter, to stay with her.

7. Prescott reconsiders and offers Robert a multimillion-dollar deal, while allowing him to keep intellectual ownership of his invention.

8. Robert pays Melinda a visit at work with flowers. He thanks her for her support, tells her they would never get back together, and to show gratitude, gives her $10 million dollars and buys her home back.

9. Melinda is angry and blames her family for leading her astray. When she goes to Robert’s new penthouse to seduce him, Diana walks in and introduces herself as Robert’s fiancé.

10.That was the beginning of Melinda's anger, hurt and obsession with the couple. At this point, her anger is legendary.

She does things like suing them, disfiguring their photos and destroying Diana's wedding gown. The couple file a counter suit against her for her threats and obtain restraining orders.

After several attempts to separate them and exact revenge, Melinda dies while trying to hit Robert with an ax during his honeymoon cruise.

The question is: Who exactly is to blame here? Melinda? Robert? Melinda's family?

Pls Kindly drop ur comments, views & objections. No Abusive words.
Thanks......

Recycle Atm Cash Machine

Germany now pay You €0.35 for every can or plastic bottle You recycle.
This one of the reasons there streets are so clean.

So Why can't we have this machine in Nigeria? Picking bottles & can is my hobbie oooo.

Need The Right One....

The devil's gimmicks can just be very enticing to a single believer. It's just the way he wraps a wrong thing in a nice fancy package.

That moment when you meet someone who is crazy about the kind of music you like. They know the lyrics to all the songs of One Direction and Coldplay and you're like "okay, this might be it. Me liking you already."

Then they start talking about New Edition and how much they love the song 'can you stand the rain'.
Excuse me am crushing on you sweetheart. Thank God I have finally found someone who is set apart from all this shaku shaku generation.

Then you find out they like Taylor swift, and one of their favourite song is 'stay with me' by Sam Smith, and the mother of them all they actually know Earth Wind and Fire talking about 'I can't find a reason' 🙆‍♂️🙆‍♂️ yè!!! Then they go "do you know the O'jays?" And you are like "are you kidding me?"

My favourite song from the O'jays is 'last night me and my woman cried together'. Oh my God! How about 'you've given me a reason to love' by Maze feat Frankie Beverly?

At this point you know you are completely won over, but because you are a believer you try asking spiritual questions, but this time they are just for formality, you are careful not to spoil the mood by going too spiritual of them, so instead of asking deep things you start asking surface questions like
"What church do you go to?
Who is your pastor? Are you a church worker? You are scared they might say the wrong thing and show you a red flag, something you're not ready to see right now, let's just keep going first, cos if you miss this one you will have to go through a thousand shaku shaku to find another one that knows about Imagine Dragons and 3 Doors Down.

Hurts so much to finally find someone who shares your passion and likes the kind of things you like, only to let them go because they have no evidence of Christ in them, not even in sprinkled deposits. The 'step out of the line' kind of person, that perfect weirdo partner you thought never existed, just as crazy as you.

But deep down, deep down in your heart you know stepping in will be a wrong ship for you. Even when you try to fight it, even when you try to trick your spirit by staying friends, hoping they would change. Even when you try to encourage them to chase God as a friend, and it turns out like you are forcing a horse to the stream, you know you have to let go and keep trusting God for the ONE.

Pals, one of the hardest things to do as a single person is having to say no to all the wrong ones that looks good for you, while trusting God for the right person to come.

They just have to be RIGHT for me, they just have to be, because am not standing on the LEFT

Guard Your Value

A popular speaker started off a seminar by holding up a $20 bill. A crowd of 200 had gathered to hear him speak. He asked, “Who would like this $20 bill?”
200 hands went up.

He said, “I am going to give this $20 to one of you but first, let me do this.” He crumpled the bill up.
He then asked, “Who still wants it?”
All 200 hands were still raised.
“Well,” he replied, “What if I do this?” Then he dropped the bill on the ground and stomped on it with his shoes.
He picked it up, and showed it to the crowd. The bill was all crumpled and dirty.
“Now who still wants it?”
All the hands still went up.
“My friends, I have just showed you a very important lesson. No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value. It was still worth $20. Many times in our lives, life crumples us and grinds us into the dirt. We make bad decisions or deal with poor circumstances. We feel worthless. But no matter what has happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value.

You are special – Don’t ever forget it!

Denzel Washington

Here are some timeless lessons from Denzel Washington’s speech.

1. Believe in Your Gift
“True desire in your heart, for anything good, is God’s proof to you, sent beforehand, that it’s yours already.”
We all have dreams. But at some point in life, we compromise. We take jobs we hate to have a certain social status. We stop believing in our dreams. We settle.
Denzel Washington says that your dream is already yours. You just have to work for it. Whether you call it God, energy or anything else. It keeps tugging us inside. This is God’s way of showing you the right direction.
Believe. This is the most important lesson from Denzel Washington’s speech.

2. Goals Matter
“You have these dreams. Dreams without goals remain dreams and fuel disappointment.”
Goals serve as an anchor to your dreams. If you reach one goal at a time, you can create breakthrough change. That’s why it is important to have daily, monthly and yearly goals. Goals help you make decisions too. Whenever you have to make choices, you can choose the one which is more aligned with your goals.
As Denzel Washington says, “dreams without goals are just dreams.”

3. Need for discipline
“The gap between goals and achievement is taken by discipline and consistency.”
Goals can only be achieved by discipline and consistency. You need to respect your dreams enough to have discipline. The hardest workers work 100+ hour work weeks. Because they love what they do.
But I’m gonna let you in on a little secret. Discipline comes easy when you love what you do. When you surrender to the pull inside you , rather than pushing hard to achieve what you don’t want inside.
You need to control your mind to realize what lies in your heart.

4. Make a difference
“We all have that unique gift, to touch people, to affect people. Understand that gift.”

Denzel says that we all can change each other’s lives in some way or the other. Even the garbage man is changing your surroundings to make them habitable.
Listen to the voice that speaks to you. What does it say? How can you change people for the better? Are you a tech wizard who can make useful apps? Are you a music lover who can melt hearts with his words? Are you a painter who creates jaw-dropping art? Who are you really?
Figure it out. Talk to that voice every single day. Write what you hear in your journal. And I promise you, you will know the greatness within you.

5. Don’t chase money
“I have made hundreds of dollars in my life. And I can’t take it with me. It’s not what you have. But what you do with what you have.”

Denzel shows how lame greed is. You can not take money to your grave.

In his commencement speech at Dillard University, Denzel said, “You’ll never see a U-haul behind a hearse. The Egyptians tried it. It didn’t work.”
So don’t just live for money. Live for something greater than yourself. For that will determine not only how you live, but also how you die. And nobody wants to die with regret in their heart.

So what did you learn from Denzel Washington’s speech? Share with us in the comments.

Martha Ankomah

Ghanaian actress, Martha Ankomah who is famous for her elegant personality, and topmost decent celebrity which Ghanaians always talk about was spotted in an interview.

The conversation surfaced about how she still looks special when it comes to her fashion style, and her decent way of dressing and how simple she looked always. Martha got a very simple answer to that, which she said, she does it from within her and what God has purposed for her. She continued saying, she chose to be simple and natural always.

Martha Ankomah is a Ghanaian actress who has appeared in several movies and has gained public attention for playing explicit roles in Movies such as King’s Cult, Sugar Town, etc.

The award-winning actress, Martha Ankomah has never disappointed her fans with her fashion choices, and her fans really love and like what she does always. She is one of the actresses that really looks unique in her own style when it comes to a decency. If it comes to choosing a role model to follow in Ghana, you can’t leave her out.

She has also Set Her Own Foundation – ‘MARTHA ANKOMAH FOUNDATION’ that is to Educate Society and Children Especially the Girl-Child.

Will like to urges young actress to look up to her as a role model which will really empower them to go as far as Martha has.

My Best Sex So Far....

I can say that was the best sex I have ever had.

We did everything in foreplay and the actual sex was not in this realm. Waves of orgasm swept over her body and my very self felt highly satisfied. As I stood up from her and was putting on my boxer, something strange happened that has never happened in all my sexual adventure.

Right there in the room, like in a trance, I saw an image like my self walked out of my body. I was so scared as the image bowed his head and was walking backward to the door. I screamed, I shouted, I was shivering seriously.
My girlfriend stood up and was
asking me what is wrong with me. She shouted that I should keep quiet, but, No! I kept shouting as I saw like myself walking away from me.

To my surprise, I kept on telling my girl friend to look at this image and she said, she could not see anything. I became terrified. It was like I was in the oven, at the same time, it was as if I was in a cold room.

I watched the image walked backward to the door & when it got to the door, it turned to go out of the door, as I watched the back of this image, I saw an inscription written on it ' EXCELLENT SPIRIT'.

I screamed and shouted because, though I am not a serious Christian, but I know what it means to have an excellent spirit and to lose it. I have been leading the whole department in my school. Lecturers consult me privately to explain some hard topics. I was a genius. It is this brilliance and handsomeness that made me the desire of most ladies on campus.

While I was crying and weeping bitterly, my girlfriend busted into serious laughter.

I was asking her why the laughter, and she said, have been trying to achieve this for some while, you are Number 5. I will get the remaining 5 to make 10. I asked her to explain what she meant, she just laughed harder. She carried her bag and walked out of my room and said, 'enjoy your shadow'.

Till today, I can't trace this lady. I have tried looking for her, I can't find her. Right from that day, I knew I became empty.

I have the best result in my department, but no destiny results to show for it sir. I lost something that day, I knew I lost it. I have been praying and asking the Lord for restoration. Atimes, I feel like I am so empty. I wished that sex never happened or never happened between me and that lady. I lost excellent spirit!

This was a confession of a guy to me some years ago.

He wept bitterly in my office. I could not comfort him. He graduated as the
best student in his department but if you see him at that time, you will never believe he went to school.

Dear precious one, there is something deep about sex! I know some will read this and scorn it.

You only know yourself, you don't know 2 out of 10 about the person you want to have that sex with. Are there no thousands of people who have lost their
own ' excellent spirit' too just because of 10 mins sexual pleasure.

Flee fornication! Flee adultery!. One round of sex is enough to round off your glorious destiny. Enjoy sex with your spouse only!

Singles, wait! You won't die. Wait. Before you remove your pant for that guy /lady to commit fornication, think! Rule your desire or ruin your destiny. He Saïd to me things i easily do in thé past, are now very very difficult for me to do.

Why Most You press on till You fall victim before learning Your lesson!!!

A bruced skin Will never look like Your natural skin.

I am warned! You are warned!

Thanks

My Sunday Visit To The Prison Yard.

A close friend of mine was jailed for money laundering by the state court of law.

we've been searching
for her,for the past 6months before we get an information that she's sentence to 14yrs imprisonment .
we visit the prison & demand to see my beloved friend,they search for her name on there list & discover
her present including the prison number. but when they brought her it was not lydia,so they brought another
lady & it was still the wrong person.

so they open the gates for us to enter & check ourselves since there's a disorder in there listing.
after checking 21 prison rooms filled with ladies,we found lydia & she was so happy in tears that we
searched for her & gave her more hope to be free again.

we were are happy embracing each other & thanking God for the grace. the warders order us to step out
of the prison corridor,to the visitors room.so we can discuss better with lydia how everything really happen

As we were discussing with lydia,i was never convinient with myself & my mind is some where else,
out of my uncormfortable i whisper to my to one of my friend ear.so we both step out & left the rest geasting
with lydia.

i explain to nifemi my worries,there's this beautiful woman inside the same prison with lydia. she was
busy using the food given to her to draw on the floor.
so i told nifemi,i looked into at her drawing very well & i can identify it as a baby in pains. so i wish to hear
from this woman,luckily for me she was also interested in the woman,since we can use her influence
as a press woman.

so we approach the warders & seek some minutes to talk with the woman.
this woman was fully depressed & was'nt herself,she had cried & no more tears to drop from her eye balls.
she said her name was Ruth Marcus,let us go to her story,so painful. i can't explain the speed of tears on my eye ball,it was non stop.

I was in courtship with my dearest husband for 7yrs,he loved me so much
and i love him also,he hardly do without me.so many people said our love
will fade after marriage,but it was not.

kolade marcus resign is job bcos
of me,he was transfer to abuja from lagos with promotion as a general manager.
i can't go with him bcos am also a career lady & have so much establish it in
lagos state,kolade understand me & seek other option from his boss or resign.

few months later he got another job & i was pregnant of my first baby,after 13months of marriage.
things were going on fine between us,am the apple of my inlaws so i
never had problem with them at all. i was getting closer to my delivery
period,so i was noticing some changes in kolade,like coming home late,hardly
have time for me.since he was not the kind of man that i know,i ask him
& he told me that his just for a while,due to his new job terms.

i never doubt him bcos i trust him & deeply believe in him,few weeks to my
delivery,he took me on a ride for a surprise package.

i was so happy to see our personal home,he just bought this fully
furnished duplex. i ask him how he got the money to purchase the property?
he said he got a contract outside his company & was executing it,all those
period he come's home late.i was so happy & still went ahead believing
him.
i gave birth to my baby in a brand new house & that load me with joy.
on the 2nd of february 2012,i gave birth to my baby girl.that day was on
thursday,we did the naming ceremony & my baby was doing fine
including the family.few months later romours stat spreading all over me
that my husband is cheating on me,but non of them can clearly proof it or
identify the lady my husband was going out with,so i refuse to ask my
husband or put it on my mind.i don't want to break my peaceful home,
with romours all around me.april 22nd my baby health went disorder,if she's
hot in the morining she will be cold all night.so we took her to the hospital
& several test was done on her,we were given some drugs to use for her
untill the test is out.on the 3rd day another source was telling me that my
husband is cheating on me & i need to take fast action to avoid future harm,
that night i could'nt hide it so i ask him what is he doing wrong behind me?

I don't have proof,so i can't shout on him,so i spoke with him moderately
& he totally proof me wrong as he remind me how strong his love towards me.
that weekend i visit the hospital,to receive the test done on my baby.
3 different test was done,the first & second test was all about my baby
changes in growth.

but the doctor refuse to show me the last result,he said
he will only give it to my husband. i call him,but he can't even make it
that day,so i insist to collect the result & can't wait till my husband
visit the hospital.it turns out to be noise,nursing staffs & patients
present in the hospital start appealing to me to calm down & take heed to
the doctor instructions.
i left the hospital with my baby confused,i explain everything to my husband
& he promise to visit the hospital the following day after work.

my husband came back from work that day & showed me the doctor report &
it says my baby had some cancer symptoms & need emergency action including me the mother.

i called the doctor's mobile number phone & express my anger
to him,i told him since i have a friend that specialise on this disease,i
will rather take my baby there & he should'nt expect us. but my husband
won't allow me to take my baby to where i want & the doctor also won't allow
me to rest,i should suspect something but i was a fool & dead bird lover.
few weeks later my baby temperature seriously gone high & i couldn't bear
it anymore,so with all force i took my baby to my friends hospital.
she also run some test on my baby,later that evening she showed me the
blood result & i fainted after reading it. my baby was HIV positive,so where did she got it?
If it was not through my me the mother.i was tested & also confirm HIV
positive,now i know the reason why the doctor refused to show me the result
& it all proof that the result my husband showed me was fake,thats why
he never want me to visit my friend hospital.
my dearest husband did all in his possible best to apologise to me & confessed
all he did behind me.they were terrible things that ears most not be listening
to,i accept his apology but warn him that my baby most not die.
may 30th 2012,my baby died & i remember inside of me that i never forgive my husband.
he was infected with the virus & pass it to me through sex & my baby was
never HIV positive during birth.
few days later i encourage myself & choose to be bold.i don't believe it
was the devil that pushed me to it at all,because have been a good child
of God reading my bible & praying fervently.i tryed all in my possible
best to secure my marriage & make it a peaceful home.
i poisoined the food i & my husband want to eat together,since we have
no reason to be alive anymore,we are both HIV positive & it seems our
death passport is already in our hands,only waiting for the flight as
it was giving to my innocent baby.
after eating that night,kolade storm & scream to death. i don't even try
to rescue him,bcos i believe my own time is coming and no body will rescue
me. so let us both die in pains,but it surprise me till date. nothing had
happen to me & we both ate from the same plate.

SO IS YOUR HUSBAND SLEEPING WITH HARLOTS?

No,not at all he's my dearest & proof to be faithful. just that,he was into
"HOMOSEXUAL" sleeping with men like him & that was where he got the money
to purchase the house & other properties including the HIV gift.

THE LITTLE ME AND NIFEMI COULD DO IS TO RENEW HER BACK TO LORD
JESUS CHRIST & GAVE HER A BRAND NEW BIBLE FOR HER AS SHE LATER
REQUEST FOR HYMN BOOK.
WE GAVE HER THE HYMN BOOK & I BELIEVE SHE WILL BE A GREAT EVANGELIST
IN THE PRISON YARD.(SHE'S ON A DEATH SENTENCE & COULD BE EXECUTED ANYTIME)

I BELIEVE YOU GOT SOME PIECES TO LEARN FROM THIS STORY & I WILL LOVE TO READ
YOUR COMMENTS!!!!!!!

My Final Year Series 2

No, you have to come down & maintain patients with your health status.

listen to me,Ben is fine but you can't see him now bcos he's relaxing & you
also still need more rest.
later that night,i was allow to see ben in his ward. immediately i open
the door & see him seating on the bed,i rush to hug him. but i felt two
things wrong with him,he never make any act to hug me back until i do.

he was just on the bed & later smile boldly,as in the smile got no meaning.
i felt confuse bcos this is not how my ben act,so i ask the doctor behind
me to tell me what is wrong with my fiancee? so many things start runing
on my memory,his he mentally disorder,paralysed. out of confusion i screamed and shout on the doctor,i need answers...
the doctor later told me to seat down,which i did.known of those things
you mentioned is affecting him,but if any of them will happen to him.that
will come through you vivian,gently i ask why?
the last thing that ben saw was the accident of that day,what are you trying
to say sir? ben is temporarily blind,i mean can't see anything but is temporarily.

this should'nt happen to me doctor,with tears runinig freely on my face. i
touch is face,hold is head tight,kissed him & ask him if he can see my weeping?
ben reply me no. then i truely believe it that when your eyes balls are
shut down,the brain function is limited. doctor anything to help me,not
ben now,bcos am already blind also & sir he's my first love,i have never
blame my self falling in love with him. i mean no one will love back,bcos
am blind to doctor!!!!!!!
take it easy my dear,you don't need the tears at all.we've run some tests &
the result here showed that,he splashed his head on a stone sand,to save
your waist from spinal chord loose.
i could'nt control my tears & pains on that day,but i hold ben's head and
speak words of faith & confidence to him. i knelt down beside, him benjamin,

i vivian will never leave you & i will always be with you forever,in this
pain and for our brighter future.please doctor do me one favor,keep the
sight disorder duration period away from me,bcos i don't want to focus on
that duration period. but unto my heavenly father,as you can see we've just graduate
together & we are getting married soon......PRESENTLY THEY ARE MARRIED
WITH A BOY & A GIRL,BOTH LEAVING VERY WELL & DOING PERFECTLY.....
COULD YOU BELIEVE THAT,BEN IS A CELEBRITY IN THIS PART OF THE WORLD TODAY??

Kindly drop your comments....

My Final Year Series 1

I was so shocked & in a rush after jotting the hospital address.

but jessy did something that i hate on that day,she stood up & lock the door.why do you lock the door?
my boyfriend had an accident & you are locking the door,young flower in the
garden take it easy,some body just called you & you are in rush to the point.

with this address i heard you jotting down,there's no hospital located in that
area,is new site under development 70% of the buildings there are uncompleted
building.how sure are you? because this my 4th year in this campus & within
this commuinity.why don't you take heed to jessy advice vivian,since she
knew much about this area than both of us.i quiet understand how you feel,
lets try to call ben & confirm it at least somebody will pick the call.

i felt so angry but i had patient to borrow bukky advice,hello ben where are
you? two doors to room 007.you mean my hostel(DROP CALL)ben its at the door
,i felt abnormal when ben enter my room,not even a hug just quiet.
why is she like this jessy? any hurricane between you girls before i arrive?
almost a serious hurricane infact a stormy type,thank God for jessy actions
we should all be in a marrathon raise now. what do you mean by that? enough of all this
poetry speech.she shoukd be in the hands of some rapist or kidnappers,God forbid.
after all the research we did on that day,we discover that the lady thart call
me was mattew new girl friend & both fred,mattew & the girl left hostel
earlier before ben left hostel.

i don't know what ben room mates want from me? what a demonic friends. it was tough
& hell moments in the campus,but this is my saddness & confuse story.our
love is waxing stronger every semester,3months to our final year exams
i traveled home,on my way coming i branch to ben house & get some things from
his parents,bcos both of us parents & family are much aware of our relationship.
on my way,the bus i took got stalk in this long traffic.

some minutes later,ben called me to confirm my movement,so i told him am stalk
in traffic but won't mind if he can wait for me at the bus stop,bcos of the loads.
few minutes later we alight at the bus stop & some one just grip the bag behind me,
so scared but it was ben.at that time,it was few minutes past 8pm. we waited
for a taxi,but could'nt get one so we decided to take a bike. few minutes later
on this high way speed the bike ran into a big pot hole & thats all i
could remember. suddenly i woke up in the hospital & find all sort of pipes
& engines operating on me,so i was confused & shouting where is ben?
from no where this nurse came around & was peting me to relax,bcos that day
was my fourth day in the hospital after the terrible bike accident.immediately
i heard that,i eagerly ask the nurse,we are two on the bike.how is ben &
the bike man conditions?
but the nurse went silent,not even saying a single word....
she later say something,young lady come down the bike man died yesterday
morining.don't tell me that my ben died this morining too.....

Story Continues Series 2::::::

My First Date........

One mistake we make when we are just getting to know someone is telling them all about our business, its so wrong.

You know that moment when you're out with a crush and you get talking about your dreams, visions and goals with the intention of getting to know each other better, be careful not to give out Information that should be personal to you alone.

Sometimes we open up too much and tell the other person about all the things we are looking out for in our ideal mate, giving the person the opportunity to mislead us by trying to fit into the qualities of the person we have told them we are looking out for, even when they are not, much to our own disavantage, because Pepsi and shawarmma in a restaurant with A.C will not allow us keep our big mouth shut. We just start talking and talking until we expose all the qualities we are looking for in a partner, and they start play acting.

Let me ask you a question, what is the need of an assessment if the candidate already has the answers to all the questions?

What else do you want to assess if the bro or sis already knows what your taste and speck is? They already have your marking scheme, and the funny thing is you gave it to them in the name of getting to know each other.

If he already knows you are crazy about a brother that takes church seriously, any time you call he will say he is in church, or he just left prayer meeting or that he is escorting his pastor to a missionary journey. Its easy for him to say because he already knows the kind of things you want to hear. You handed him the marking scheme, he didn't even have to work for It, just one bottle of coke and he got to know you even more than he got to tell you about himself. Can you now see why relationships don't last? Because people start pretending to be what and who you have told them you're looking out for, and it doesn't do you any favour at all.

Learn to talk less when you're out on a date with a potential someone, learn to keep your mouth shut.

He doesn't like being in a relationship without sex, but because you told him you don't date guys who want to have sex before marriage he will tell you since he was born he has never liked sex too, just to get you impressed. Then three months after his endurance he will start touching you and demanding for sex, leaving you wondering why he changed. Yes he changed, he changed into something you want him to be in other to win your heart, now he is changing back Into his original self.

I am talking to both sexes here, not the men alone. Have some sense guys, learn to walk in wisdom. She knows you don't like demanding women so she plays along, three months later you start hearing "my hair is due".

Walk in wisdom. Know what to say. And in case you're asking what to discus on the first few 'getting to know you' dates I will leave some tips.

1.
Talk about the petty things that you can discuss with anyone: names, pet names, favourite things, hobbies, books, music, movies, mentors, and other mushy things that doesn't entails giving up private information...

2.
Talk about future things: who you want to be. What you're working towards, goals, vision in life, and other very important things that DEFINES your values as a person.

It is important that they know you're not the type that wants to hang around a drawback or one that wants to get stuff in a bottleneck relationship.

3.
Talk about your faith: go spiritual on them. You don't even need to spell it out to a person that you are a believer and you walk in the Spirit before they get it.

I call this the switch-system; here is when you switch from a nice maybe romantic or somehow carnal discussion to one spiritual matter that does not concern the present topic of discussion.

For instance, if you're talking about your favourite movies and he's describing his love for titanic, how Jack died to save Rose , just interrupt and ask him what he thinks about the movie War Room! switch quickly! The question does not concern Titanic but it takes his attention back to the fact you are not soo comfy about the physical.

So Talk about faith, let the person understand clearly what you stand for.

You can also comment your views....

Spirikoko in Marriage Things

And this is where we get it wrong as believers most of the time when we get a confirmation from God on who to marry;

Most Christian men are just boring chasers. Very boring when it comes to chasing and wooing a woman God has revealed as their spouse.

Some have very bad manners of approach and they think it's spiritually romantic.

A brother will approach a sister and be like;

"Hello, My name is Senior Evangelist most Reverend Deacon Nnambi and God told me in a dream that you are my wife."

"Hello sister Agatha, I embarked on a 21days fast and your face appeared to me in a vision that you are my wife."

"Sister Chioma, everytime I speak in tongues I find myself calling your name repeatedly like Chioooomarekete lakuria skindodo gagumi lettuce, and I believe you are my wife."

They are just too confident in the conviction they got from the Lord, forgetting that a woman will always be a woman, wether she swallowed the Bible or eats bread with annointing oil, every woman's heart needs to be melted in the language she can understand, God made it that way.

And most times even when the lady accepts the relationship, the man feels he has arrived at the destination that God sent him, so no need to chase her anymore. The next plan is how to enroll for marriage counselling and marry within six months. Only to start living like two complete strangers three months into marriage.

Understand this truth uncle;

That God told you that you have won the race is the more reason why you should run and enjoy the race because you are confident of victory, NOT for you to step out of the line.

Sometimes God's YES is not always the beginning and the end of a confirmation. Most times His YES is the beginning of many YESES to follow!!!

Yes she is the one...
Yes be good friends with her...
Yes build up her lacking values...
Yes encourage her chastity...
Yes take her out and spoil her a little...
Yes bring her lunch at work next Friday...
Yes pick her up after work today...
Yes get to know and like her hobbies...
Yes study your differences...
Yes she has annoyed you again but forgive her.
Yes her parents might be stubborn but love and follow them with wisdom...
Yes change her old makeup kit...
Yes tell her she looks beautiful on daily bases...

... 35 years later in marriage;
Yes she's too tired to cook today please manage gala and Pepsi and hold your peace.
Yes her boobs are falling down like the London bridge but let your love for her rise like the sun.
Yes! Yes! Yes!

HIS yes is not always the final destination, it is the start of the beautiful journey. Knowing that God has delivered you to each other should make you enjoy fulfilling these yeses!

Is anyone getting this amazing stuff?

So what is the rush with all the THOU SAID THE LORD if the Lord has already said? I mean, when the vision was yet to come you were praying and waiting on the Lord in a rush, now that the vision has come you are still rushing to propose, and after you marry you will still be rushing to divorce when you start living like strangers.

Every woman is a little girl at heart. Enjoy every stage of your YESES. Woo that prayer warrior like she is a cheerleader. Woo that choir director and Bible study coordinator like she was Cinderella in a movie. Stop going to threaten somebodys daugther with 'thou said the Lord.'

Courtesy
Uncle Alison.

OUR CHILDREN ARE SEXY!

Parent competition on making children go astray.

Few weeks ago, I was at the local airport and as I waited in the departure lounge, I noticed there were many children roaming about but it was understandable since it was summer holiday.

One other thing I noticed was the way most of the children were dressed. Most of them, especially the girls, were dressed in bum shorts, halter necks, cut off jeans, etc. 
The clothes in themselves weren't the issue per se; it was the overall look of the children that had me bothered. That was definitely not the first time I noticed it.

A few months before, I had taken my kids to a birthday party and found myself in what could easily have been a night club for kids. 
Scanty clothing such as tight or very short clothes, bum shorts, long weaves, etc, seemed to be the dress code.

I noticed my son glancing around, probably wondering, "What in God's world are these other children wearing?" Or something like that.

Not long after, the kids were called out to dance to the hit songs of the season - these songs in my opinion should be rated PG 16. 4 - 6 year olds trooped to the dance floor, miming the sexually explicit songs and gyrating their bodies in the most sensual manner.

They could have given Beyonce a run for her money. They ran their hands over their bodies, shook their booties hard while their parents cheered them on. The boys had their upper shirts unbuttoned and rapped along perfectly to gangsta raps while doing flawless break dance.

Those who danced like actual children where shooed off the dance floor while the lewd ones were cheered on.

As I watched, my child stared out of this circle looking longingly at the others dancing. I knew it was time to leave.

As we left, we went to an eatery where I bought them ice cream and gently explained to them the concept of decency and dancing with decorum.

Another time, at a game arcade for kids, I ran
into a lady who had made-up her kids' faces like they were mannequins for Tara or Mac beauty products. Their skirts were so tight, that running up and down the slide was uncomfortable for them.

So the question is, why are we sexualizing our kids? Why does your 4, 6 or 9 year old girl have to look like a chick?

Why does she have to be hot or sexy?

Should your 8 year old son go around with a comb in his hair and his pants sagged almost to his ankles?

If your child wears bum shorts out of the house at age 3, why should she be expected to wear longer ones at 15?

If she wears 2 rings and 12 bangles at 6, why won't she pierce a second ear hole at 17 and her bellybutton at 19?

Why won't your son pierce his own ear at 15?

Are you setting your children up to be immodest and indecent? What trend are you starting them on? That all these are fashionable or trendy doesn't mean it's ok.

What happened to children wearing dresses. 
Children can look very nice and decent, they can be well covered and still look good.

In this age, when children are being abused. Is it wise to make your child an object of anyone's sexual attention?

When I hear some children belt out sexually explicit lyrics, I ask myself how they became exposed to this songs!
As a parent, you can't play the CD of such songs and not expect your children to pick them up; the same goes for watching Mtv Base, Channel O, etc with your children.

Studies have shown that children exposed to a high level of sexually explicit information tend to become sexually active early. Is that your goal as a parent?

Being a parent involves sacrifice. You will need to avoid listening to such music where your children are. Most of those lyrics demean women and teach your daughter that she's just a sex toy and her body is for squeezing.

It teaches the boys that money is everything and women are things to be used to satisfy their primal urges. These music introduces them to a degrading pop culture.

Our children have their lives ahead of them, let's set them on the right path by teaching them to dress decently and sing nice or age-appropriate songs.

Let your children be children. Train up a child in the way that they should go and when they are old, they would not depart from it.!

Credits: Igbafe Oluseye

SHOULD I MARRY FINANCIAL UNSTABLE MAN

Dear Sir/Ma,

I have been saved and walking with the Lord for about three years now. Last year, I was blessed with the opportunity to begin my career in another state. There was a man at my church home who I was attracted to; however he never approached me or expressed interest in me.

Because I was leaving, I decided to pursue a casual sexual relationship with him. I knew this was outside of God’s will and I struggled with it for sometime. I prayed and asked God to cover me, then I sent him my number on Facebook.
He contacted me later that evening and expressed that he had been admiring me for quite some time.

He said he had been praying, asking God for a relationship with me and that he was only interested in pursuing a Godly relationship with me. I was amazed, God had answered my prayer! The only problem…he did not have a job; in fact, he was homeless. Given the amazing circumstances, I overlooked that and was open to a friendship with him.

Almost a year later, he is my best friend, even though we are miles apart. For the most part, he is everything I want in a husband and we are discussing marriage .

The only hang-up for me is his financial/living situation has not changed. He is pursuing a career in ministry but when I try to get an understanding of his goals and plans he gets defensive. He says his goal is to work in ministry and God will provide a job when the time is right.

He says a job is not important to him, but serving God is. I can see his dedication in studying and learning the Word but I still wonder, am I wasting my time? How can I get a better understanding of his goals/plans without him getting defensive? Or has he already told me what I need to know? Should I Marry a God-fearing Man Who Is Financially Unstable?

Thanks,
Lost in Love