Some of us are great at the chase, but not so good at the kill. In
other words, we know how to get the guy, but when it comes to keeping
him, it’s a different story. Once you’ve impressed your guy and wooed
him, and you both finally come down from cloud nine, what’s next?
How do you keep a man interested and show him that you’re worth keeping around, especially once he realizes that you’re not perfect like he thought (none of us are)? Being yourself is always a good place to start, but there are other things that you can do to keep a man by your side, help him to really appreciate you, and take that step to commit.
Here are five ways to get on your guy’s good side.
1. Learn to speak his love language.
How do you keep a man interested and show him that you’re worth keeping around, especially once he realizes that you’re not perfect like he thought (none of us are)? Being yourself is always a good place to start, but there are other things that you can do to keep a man by your side, help him to really appreciate you, and take that step to commit.
Here are five ways to get on your guy’s good side.
1. Learn to speak his love language.
First and foremost, find out what his love language is. You can
make him dinner every night, but if his love language is “words of
affirmation,” you’ll be spinning your wheels.
Once you’ve determined his love language, you can tailor your affections to his needs, and you’ll even reap the benefits. When your man feels loved, he’ll be more likely to shower you with the affection you deserve.
Once you’ve determined his love language, you can tailor your affections to his needs, and you’ll even reap the benefits. When your man feels loved, he’ll be more likely to shower you with the affection you deserve.
Words of Affirmation - If this is your guy’s love language, he
craves verbal affection and praise. He needs to feel that you value him
and the things he does, however insignificant they may seem.
Make a point of saying “thank you” and, at least once a day, tell him that you appreciate him. It’s important to follow your words with actions, but just a few simple words will make his day!
Quality Time - If quality time is most important to your man, he will feel loved when you spend time together that is free of distractions.
For instance, depending on the person, watching television together may not constitute quality time. Instead, choose an activity that will allow you to focus your attention on him. Try to make a point of having dinner together alone at least a few times a week, and take advantage of your extra time on the weekends to plan something fun that requires interaction. You’ll be amazed at the difference a few hours can make in helping to keep a man happy!
Make a point of saying “thank you” and, at least once a day, tell him that you appreciate him. It’s important to follow your words with actions, but just a few simple words will make his day!
Quality Time - If quality time is most important to your man, he will feel loved when you spend time together that is free of distractions.
For instance, depending on the person, watching television together may not constitute quality time. Instead, choose an activity that will allow you to focus your attention on him. Try to make a point of having dinner together alone at least a few times a week, and take advantage of your extra time on the weekends to plan something fun that requires interaction. You’ll be amazed at the difference a few hours can make in helping to keep a man happy!
Receiving Gifts - While this love language may sound expensive,
it doesn’t have to be. Some people simply need love to be expressed in
visible and tangible ways. Pay attention to the little things that make
him feel loved.
Put a note in his work bag with a Hershey’s kiss, or buy him a book that you think he would enjoy. Surprise him at work with lunch or a cup of his favorite coffee. Little things like this will go a long way toward making him feel special and fulfilled in your relationship.
Acts of Service - Acts of service include making your guy dinner, doing his laundry, picking up his dry cleaning, getting his car washed, and any other chore that can make his life simpler and less stressful.
Pick two things to do for him each week, in addition to what you would normally do, and your man will feel loved!!!!
Put a note in his work bag with a Hershey’s kiss, or buy him a book that you think he would enjoy. Surprise him at work with lunch or a cup of his favorite coffee. Little things like this will go a long way toward making him feel special and fulfilled in your relationship.
Acts of Service - Acts of service include making your guy dinner, doing his laundry, picking up his dry cleaning, getting his car washed, and any other chore that can make his life simpler and less stressful.
Pick two things to do for him each week, in addition to what you would normally do, and your man will feel loved!!!!
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