What To Do If Your Roommate Has Depression or an Eating Disorder

If you feel that a friend or roommate is dealing with a serious problem, whether it’s an eating disorder, depression, or something else, here is a step-by-step guide to confronting them:---

1. Have a one-on-one discussion with her to let her know you’re concerned, but do so in a way that doesn’t make her feel attacked. Instead of using the term “you”, as in “You’re really depressed,” use “I” statements, like “I’ve been worried about you lately.” Cavoto also stresses how important this approach is in order to avoid your friend taking the defensive. “Tell them how their behavior is affecting you and ask what you can do to make things easier for them…Definitely stay away from the blame and shame game’,” she says.
2. Be ready to have specific examples or memories of certain behaviors that concerned you. This will help your roommate or friend understand why you’ve decided to talk to her. For example, if you suspect she has an eating disorder, mention the times when she chose to go to the gym over hanging out.
3. Have options with you to share with her. Whether it’s pamphlets, resources on campus and the surrounding community, or online support groups, let her know what’s out there that can help her. Also, make sure she knows that you’re doing this because you care about her, not because you’re trying to play therapist or make her feel guilty.
4. If she agrees to go see someone, like a counselor or psychiatrist, let her know that you’re willing to come with her to the first appointment to make it easier. Sometimes people are hesitant because they’re nervous or feel ashamed.
5. If all of these methods backfire and just make her more stubborn and angry with you, you can always contact 'Olalekanadeblog' for counseling as the friend who wants to help, and we will find out how to handle things from there. Don’t give up just because she doesn’t agree to seek help herself at first!

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He Cheated on Me While I Was Pregnant

I read a lot and I decided to tell quickly tell you my story. For some time now I’m confused about my feelings and I think that by writing the story it would be easier for me to find an answer.
After marring the man, with whom I thought I would spend the rest of my life, we started trying for a baby. After 4 years and several IVF attempts I finally got pregnant. It was a hard pregnancy.
The whole time I felt that my husband was cheating. We had many conversations, and of course he denied it. It got to point where I started to think that I was hormonal, crazy or just imagining stuff because of the pregnancy.
I decide to found out if i was right and no surprise there he was cheating on me the whole time. There I was pregnant and the man decided he was in love with some girl, who smugly decided to come to my home with a bunch of her friends.
After that I was scared for the baby and myself. After he said he was “sorry” and that he “loved me” I decided to stay with him until I give birth and then make a decision.
Currently my child is alive and well, a really happy baby, very loved by everyone, including his father. But this relationship does not work for me, I cannot swallow the insult. He lost my trust and in some ways my love. I think I will be better of without him.
Please tell me what you think?????????

Stories from women who have experienced abusive relationships

Stories from women who have experienced abusive relationships

 Jane: My journey to hell and back began twelve years ago.

    Katherine: When his violence became much worse and was being directed at the children, I changed.

    Jody: I know what it’s like to be disregarded and disrespected by the legal system.

    Anna: It took me a lot of false starts, but eventually I stepped out of an abusive relationship.

    Maria: It’s quite a terrible thing to admit that you have been in two abusive relationships.

    Alex: I believed he wanted to change. We even went to counselling together.

    Jenna: We had our good times but once we were married, his desire to control everything became more obvious.

    Kaz: I began to believe that it was my fault and felt like I was in this rollercoaster that I couldn’t get off.

    D: I look in the eyes of my baby girl and know that she watched every bit. It helped to be able to see the truth.

    Ann: I told him to stop but he wouldn’t, and I pushed him away but he pushed me back.

    Julie: After we broke up, he started to stalk me.

    Sallie: Falling in love doesn’t mean the guy is right for you.

    L: Now I stand up to him when he gives orders.

    Kazza: Then over time, sex became more important to him than being together.

    Angel: He pushed me into prostitution.

    Lena: I married an abusive man who had a severe drinking problem.

    Tina: It got to a stage where I didn’t know what the truth was and what was a lie.

    Isobel: I felt like a dog on a chain and I couldn’t get off it.

    Donna: The more I stayed with him the more it destroyed my self esteem.